Sometimes we sort of lose ourselves in the day-to-day and don’t even realize it. I think this happens especially when we first become moms. You suddenly have this other person whose needs you have to constantly think about, and it’s easy to just sort of let yourself fade away.
I was listening to The Simple Show podcast today, and Tsh mentioned that when she had her first baby she felt as if every semblance of her had disappeared.
I was sort of like that and I didn’t notice it until something that would normally be insignificant brought it to light.
It was 4th of July weekend and we were out at my in-laws’. My sister-in-law and I were sitting out in the backyard with the little girls when my niece asked her mom to put music on so she could dance. My SIL quickly started a playlist on her tablet and she and her daughter were singing and jamming together.
I always listen to music with my kids. But this was different. My SIL and niece were singing and dancing to grown-up music. I’m not talking about anything racy. Just fun, poppy/country stuff.
So what, right? I didn’t think much of it at first either. Then my girls were asking to hear those same songs while we were in the car together the next week and I realized, I had not listened to grown-up music since my oldest daughter was born.
Sure, I may have heard music I liked in a store or restaurant, at a party, or while in the car with hubby. But I had not actually turned on a song that I loved and sang along in years. I always turned on kid music with the girls. I don’t know why, really. I guess I thought they’d like it better or get more out of it or something.
I learned quickly that these girls are actually get a ton out of listening to “my music” with me. They are getting a fun mom who shows them it’s good to sing out loud and dance and love a good song. They are getting a mom who has rediscovered a piece of herself that had been a bit buried, but is now back in the light and making her a bit happier.
I discovered this awesome app by Amazon (if you are a newsletter subscriber, you may remember this as one of my “Three Things I’m Loving”). You can listen to the music in your library on multiple devices. For example, I can listen on my laptop or on my iPhone without having to do any sort of sync fiddling or file sharing stuff (technical terms). I set up the bluetooth audio thingy (more technical talk) in my car to play music from my phone through my car speakers. And I did it all by myself (my hubby was thoroughly impressed), so I know you can do it (if your car has the bluetooth thingy).
You can add up to 250 songs out of your own library, but the really cool part is that you can listen to tons of songs in the Amazon music library for FREE! Not every single song is available, and you do have to be connected to the internet since you are streaming. But there are seriously tons and tons of songs available.
I had forgotten how much I used to love listening to music. As silly as it may sound, in some ways I feel like a new person. It is amazing how much of an impact music can have on your mood and outlook.
Seriously. If negative feelings are seeping in, try listening to a good, positive song that you love. Some might say listen to an upbeat song, but I don’t think the beat is as important as the message YOU receive from the song. And take it a step further – put everything else aside for 5 minutes and JUST listen to the song. And make sure you sing along. It will do wonders for your soul.
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